Let's live freely doing what we like—let's be disliked by others
The Courage to Be Disliked — The Source of Self-Help: Adler’s Teachings
Ichiro Kishi (Author), Fumitaka Koga (Author)
Philosopher: As I have repeated many times, Adlerian psychology holds that “all troubles are problems of interpersonal relationship.”
In other words, we seek to be freed from interpersonal relationships and to gain freedom from them.
However, living alone in the universe is absolutely impossible.
If we think this far, the conclusion to “what is freedom?” is almost visible.
Young Man: What is it?
Philosopher: That is, “Freedom is being disliked by others.”
Young Man: H-How could that be!?
Philosopher: It means that you are disliked by someone.
That is evidence that you are exercising your freedom, living freely, and following your own principles.
Young Man: I-I see, but…
Philosopher: Indeed, being disliked is painful. If possible, one would like to live without being disliked by anyone. One wants to have one’s need for approval satisfied.
But a way of living that aims to avoid being disliked by everyone is extremely restrictive and, at the same time, impossible.
If you want to exercise freedom, there is a cost. And the cost of freedom in interpersonal relationships is being disliked by others.
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